“Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrows
But if we are wise
We always know that there’s tommorrow
Lean on me, when your not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on” – Bill Withers (Lean on me)
One of the most profound songs of all time. And my third best of all time after Damian Marley shine your light and Jay Z ft Kanye west never let you down. I like it because it speaks of such obvious of a topic that is usually shrugged off. We assume it’s a natural part of life. Of which it isn’t.
Leaning on or having a supporting shoulder. We also go onto great lengths to put the heavy load onto others to play that role in our lives and if they don’t, we “cut them off”. Which we shouldn’t do. This is because it takes time to build a relationship that will guarantee a person will be there to lean on. It’s like marriage.
You dont just wake up one day and call a person your wife or husband. You start by knowing each other. You then proceed to dating, you then proceed to have arguments, have fights and finally see you can live with person X for the rest of your life. And that’s how life should be. You can’t meet someone be acquaintances then expect him or her to play the role of being inside your inner circle and if they don’t, we call them “fake friends”. It shouldn’t be.
Grow with someone till you feel you can be able to count on them . Build that relationship. Because you don’t want everyone knowing your dirty linen. And that’s the purpose of having someone to lean on. As a child you feel great knowing that you’re mother or father is always there for you. Or even when playing. Like some of us who grew up in estates. Someone would try to bully you but if you told your big brother or sister they would come defend you.
And you felt great knowing there’s a shadow casting sunlight upon you. You felt a sense of relief. And that’s what leaning on someone is. Not the literal meaning. But the meaning that if you have trouble if you have problems you always have someone there for you.
Even the bible and the Koran share similar sentiments. God, Allah, Jesus and Mohammed are always there for us. “And whoever places his trust in Allah, Sufficient is He for him, for Allah will surely accomplish His Purpose: For verily, Allah has appointed for all things a due proportion.” (Quran, 65:3).” From this verse, we can see that indeed if we trust God he will work things out. That’s the message I wanted to pass. Have people to lean on but also be that person. Reciprocate and most importantly lean on the most high 🙏🙏